Let’s Clarify
During a recent conversation with a friend I’ve noticed that it maybe too easy to separate the words Daddy and Dominant. In searching for the proper way to introduce an otherwise vanilla person to the dynamic one thing should never be misunderstood.
Try not to let the cute names fool you, this isn’t just role play.
No matter how you slice it, this is still a relationship based upon Domination and submission, usually if not always including some sort of bondage or pain play. One way to describe choice within the world of D/s & BDSM is to make a comparison to ordering a burger or a pizza, the toppings are an incredibly personal thing.
Learning as much as you can should be your first step, search the web, pick up books, or join discussion groups. If research feels like a chore you may want to investigate your passion for a particular activity. Being an uninspired Dominant, means being ineffective and possibly unsafe.
There many are ways to be a Daddy, or a submissive “little girl” for that matter, all as individual as the participants involved. For this and many other reasons I recommend completing a checklist such as the ones available here:
Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List
Google Search: BDSM Checklist”
For many pain, in the right context, is most certainly connected with pleasure. Knowing a fair bit about anatomy and aftercare is not only important but for me falls right in with the “Safe, Sane and Consensual” mantra. This means know a bit about basic first aid, properly negotiating a scene prior to play, a safe-word or gesture and having predefined limits.
All of this means one thing, communication, without it things can quickly go from fun to scary, or even worse someone could get hurt. At least not in a way they were intending.
