Daisy’s Requests
In attempting to keep tighter control on two very different girls I find myself learning a number of lessons on the fly. While my Lolidoll is a sub who does her best to adhere to the rules and knows her Daddy is proud when she does, Daisy on the other hand can seem to be a bit of a brat. Now, I don’t mean that in the sense that she is intentionally defiant, but more so that she is newer to the concept of domestic discipline. Our relationship started as very vanilla and only recently has it began to include things like rules, spankings and balancing her individual spirit with the needs of the relationship. This has unfortunately led to some frustrating situations, false starts to be literal. Recently I requested that she put her frustrations into words, asking for either clarification of her understanding of the rules or a clear explanation of what she feels is missing. She gave me a short list of suggestions, what follows are my answers
1. Please uphold the rules.
It’s easy, especially when sharing a home, to let things get very vanilla very quickly with all of the everyday responsibilities we have, therefore it’s up to me as her Daddy to create and enforce the laws. I think it’s easy at times to view her ‘defiance’ as an inconvenience and not what it really is, a call for me to put my foot and paddle down. It is also common for many men to grow silent, sliding deeper into ineffectiveness by operating under the assumption is not worth the battle what she really wants is for me to push back.
2. Can we make a list of house rules so I know what I’m responsible for.
I created a list of rules many months ago to apply to both my girls, I’m learning that while a static list of commandments is fine, both deserve and require personal refinement or the addition of rules as needed. My current list of rules does not cover responsibilities within a shared household, and thus we have a gap in communication. This is remedied via a delegation of domestic duties, and the creation of new rules.
3. Assist me in completion of my personal goals through the use of real consequences for rule violations, don’t be afraid to be the bad guy.
I must have more confidence in her ability to understand and her real desire to follow the hierarchy under which we live. At times I find myself thinking she’s not committed so therefore I don’t act accordingly, that is my own shortcoming in not reading her attitudes as the testing of boundaries.
4. Keep me in the loop
This is part open communication and part awareness of body language.
In closing I find that when I receive requests like this I try to examine things from as many angles as possible, every Daddy has something to learn from his submissive. We are given a gift of control, respect, excitement and so much more, and it’s an ongoing challenge to mold the relationship and their minds.
