What is a Daddy Dom part III
The Daddy/girl subculture, an obvious aspect of Domination and submission, is one which at times misunderstood as some desire for infantilism or a symbolic instestial relationship. Unfortunately I can understsand the assumptions as there isn’t the wealth of information which can be found covering many other aspcets of BDSM.
I tend to agree with the caregiver or authority figure identification as I believe it best describes the structure of rules, correction and nurturing which is such an important basis of this type of relationship. For myself and my girls it isn’t a role to play as much as it is an extension of our core personality, a common thread among those who share the lifestyle.
One thing we, as Dominants, learn is that being on top means leading by example, and without this lesson many are bound for a breakdown of structure when challanged by submissive or environment. If you do not take the effort to get yourself and the affairs of your household organized then how, in good faith can you reliably take on the responsibility of another?
This lesson is a tough one for some, including myself, but many of us find motivation to become better men simply due a feeling of responsibility to someone other than yourself. Building that responsibility is what some would say puts the maturity into a Daddy.
The term, head of household is common in other aspects of D/s and Taken In Hand relationships, and it means exactly what you might think. It means taking control of the things required to run a household. Providing a structed environment for the upkeep andmaintenance of a home, financial matters and thinking for good of the unit.
Unlike scene based BDSM, authority and control is retained in all aspects of the participants lives including the vanilla parts. These long-term real life relationships sometimes give the impression of the “traditional marriage”, going so far in many cases as to emphisize the “obey” parts of their vows. For some this return to tradition amounts to a bit of fetish in itself, replete with Mrs. Cleaver dresses and penchants for baking. For others still its simply following the natural order of Male Dominant/female submissive roles .
