The question of what exactly is a Daddy Dom is one that is almost impossible to answer because of how personal any relationship dynamic is by nature. The answers even I have come up with sound incomplete at best and at worst inspire their preconceived feelings of creepiness.
Not that I really give a shit bout their preconceived sensitivity. Bitches.
Seriously though, somewhere at the intersection of friends with benefits, a Pimp and his ho’s, a Master and his slave and Jay-Z singing “Girls, girls, girls” is a brief, and strange, introduction.
At the risk of sounding like Jay-Z or A Pimp Named Slickback let me impart a bit of knowledge.
Girls I do adore.
Just not a one girl guy. Some Daddy’s or dominants are poly, some are not all depends on what you and your girls can handle.
I tell her what to do. Why, because she at some point gave up that right. Consensually, gleefully, and probably following an orgasm. She might have been your over protected daughter, your ex-girlfriend who thought you were “a little too soft”, or any other strong willed woman who decides she wants a Daddy.
I provide primarily three things:
Understanding:
I don’t care what she has done, where she has been or how hard she hit bottom. We are all human and sometimes have to do some messy things to get by. Sometimes we are just so unique others don’t know what to do in order to see the light beneath. If you cannot appreciate what she has to offer you and how best to utilize those skills then you are wasting her time.
Structure:
They tell me where they want to go, and I provide the essential motivation they need to succeed. Sometimes thats a shoulder to cry on, or just a pat on the back they didn’t get elsewhere. Other times you need to help her understand the importance of achieving her goals and forgoing momentary satisfaction.
Yes that means you have to hit a bitch. No, really you HAVE to hit her. She would expect nothing less. You can opt to tell her it’s okay, there is always next time etc, in turn she will see that you cannot enforce boundaries and thus you have lost control.
So grab her hair, smack her around and strike fear into her heart she will adore you for it behind those wet quivering pupils. Just make sure you know your submissive, her boundaries, and your own skill first. Knowing her Daddy truly owns her, she will obey, but we must remain consistent.
Consistency & Discipline:
Self discipline and consistency are two of the hardest qualities for any human being to maintain. Inspiring that within others means knowing your own demons, and shortcomings. The phrase “safe, sane & consensual” is tantamount continued trust. If you cannot control yourself then you can never attempt to inspire loyalty. You lead by example like it or not.
Tags: Devil Notes, lifestyle by Don Cambion
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