Last post we explored the basics of what a Daddy Dom is, this time we will delve a bit deeper into the why and how. There are few related lifestyle dynamics which may or may not be a part of any individual or couples situation.

Age Play.
Most people new to kink in general make the assumption that role play based on perceived or actual age differences is part and parcel to being a Daddy Dominant. While yes there are those who delve into that side of kink, it is not the primary focus in La Familia Cambion. Don’t get me wrong Daddy likes a tennis skirt as much as the next guy but thats where it ends.

Psychological trauma:
Above all as a Daddy I see that my girls remain safe, and of course sane this means addressing issues from their past or present affecting their mental state. I am not a doctor, so this means giving them a shoulder to cry on and advice but beyond that I always recommend the help of professionals.

I have found that sometimes, especially within the Daddy dynamic our “fatherly” ways and the sexual nature of the relationship can open wounds of past trauma. It is up to the individual to decide what they can and cannot handle.

Boundaries
It doesn’t matter if you both enjoy electroshock stimulation, water sports, erotic asphyxiation or simple total power exchange before anyone gets all worked up boundaries MUST be set. It’s a very good idea to either complete an online or paper document outlining what is expected and forbidden within play.

Some say a safeword has no context in a Total Power Exchange relationships but I wholly disagree. The nature of our kink states that passions flare and if you are not within control of yourself or the situation things cease to be safe. A safe word or gesture gives her plenty of room in that play rape scene she begged you for to scream “No, Noooo, Stop” without you wondering if she still comfortable within play.

Self Control
I cannot stress enough the absolute need for self control for anyone who would call them selves a dominant. We, especially as men must reach a point where you know yourself and your reactions to stress, pleasure and other factors before you can be worthy of any individuals submission.

It’s of absolute importance that you seek to discipline and understand your shortcomings, she is giving you more than her body. Her mind must trust and believe in you or all will be lost.

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The question of what exactly is a Daddy Dom is one that is almost impossible to answer because of how personal any relationship dynamic is by nature. The answers even I have come up with sound incomplete at best and at worst inspire their preconceived feelings of creepiness.

Not that I really give a shit bout their preconceived sensitivity. Bitches.

Seriously though, somewhere at the intersection of friends with benefits, a Pimp and his ho’s, a Master and his slave and Jay-Z singing “Girls, girls, girls” is a brief, and strange, introduction.

At the risk of sounding like Jay-Z or A Pimp Named Slickback let me impart a bit of knowledge.

Girls I do adore.

Just not a one girl guy. Some Daddy’s or dominants are poly, some are not all depends on what you and your girls can handle.

I tell her what to do. Why, because she at some point gave up that right. Consensually, gleefully, and probably following an orgasm. She might have been your over protected daughter, your ex-girlfriend who thought you were “a little too soft”, or any other strong willed woman who decides she wants a Daddy.

I provide primarily three things:

Understanding:
I don’t care what she has done, where she has been or how hard she hit bottom. We are all human and sometimes have to do some messy things to get by. Sometimes we are just so unique others don’t know what to do in order to see the light beneath. If you cannot appreciate what she has to offer you and how best to utilize those skills then you are wasting her time.

Structure:
They tell me where they want to go, and I provide the essential motivation they need to succeed. Sometimes thats a shoulder to cry on, or just a pat on the back they didn’t get elsewhere. Other times you need to help her understand the importance of achieving her goals and forgoing momentary satisfaction.

Yes that means you have to hit a bitch. No, really you HAVE to hit her. She would expect nothing less. You can opt to tell her it’s okay, there is always next time etc, in turn she will see that you cannot enforce boundaries and thus you have lost control.

So grab her hair, smack her around and strike fear into her heart she will adore you for it behind those wet quivering pupils. Just make sure you know your submissive, her boundaries, and your own skill first. Knowing her Daddy truly owns her, she will obey, but we must remain consistent.

Consistency & Discipline:

Self discipline and consistency are two of the hardest qualities for any human being to maintain. Inspiring that within others means knowing your own demons, and shortcomings. The phrase “safe, sane & consensual” is tantamount continued trust. If you cannot control yourself then you can never attempt to inspire loyalty. You lead by example like it or not.

Tags: Devil Notes, lifestyle by Don Cambion
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