Last post I explained a little bit about polyamory, and my feelings about being a poly Dom. One thing about being a Daddy is that your submissive or lil girl, naturally wants to be the center of your universe. This is both pleasing, as it means you are usually the center of hers, and also comes with a fair amount of responsibility. I fully accept this, and treat both my girls as they deserve, by providing my full attention to each when its “our” time.

I would venture that as in most poly relationships of similar dynamic, one partner may or may not be able to handle hearing about any aspects of your involvement with another. This is to be expected and I respect the fact that that type of discussion can lead to feelings of insecurity or even worse competition between the two. Never ever provide a situation where it you are comparing the accomplishments or failures of one partner against the other. This sort of behavior only breeds contempt and will eventually weaken the bond due to feelings of inadequacy.

As things stand now geography prevents the possibility of all three of us being the same place, but even if it were possible I would avoid this situation unless both girls decided it was something they would want to do. In the future I would love to have the girls in their own separate households, close enough that I am able to travel between the two sharing my time accordingly.

Some may wonder what about the emotion end of things? Well I can only say this, I love both my girls very much and for their own individual qualities. I could never think to compare their night and day personalites and quirks, I just know they are both deeply special to me.

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When someone actively decides to define their lifestyle, to give it some sort of label it comes both with an empowering feeling and the realization of just what type of pervert you are. Much like it’s taken me years to accept and understand my desires for a D/s style relationship, it has taken just as long to realize something else.

I’m poly.

Polyamory (from Greek πολυ (poly, literally “multiple”) & Latin amor (literally “love”) is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

During my high school and college years a tight knit group of friends and I regularly experimented with our sexuality openly among one another. We were always say, always horny and always looking for new things to try. While I’m not the raging ball of sperm I used to be, my experiences in traditional, monogamous relationships has taught me I’m not entirely happy being traditional.

I like many men have posed the “let’s have a threesome” discussion with previous partners, and have been met with varied success. Some were all for it, going so far as to list off friends they wanted to “do it ” with. Others didn’t go quite so well, usually due to insecurities felt by my partner, and I would feel bitter about their lack of desire to experiment.

In my opinion being “Poly” simply means being open minded, loving for the sake of love, and being brutally honest about your desires.

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